Why He Will Not Commit

As we get into or 30s (and sometime even in our 20s) the urgency to find a partner, whom we can marry and start a family with, can become overwhelming. We've has found this dilemma among both men and women, but more so with women. Perhaps it’s the “biological” clock or society’s conditioning, but regardless of the reason the person who finds himself or herself on the short end of the relationship stick are usually left asking, “What’s wrong with me?”. In a candid discussion, the men folk opened up about dating, sex, love, and the reasons why they have felt a lack of desire to commit to a woman. Read on, as you may be surprised to learn the real reasons why your guy isn’t ready to be … your guy!

Among the men that we've spoken with, the reoccurring complaint was over women who are “needy”. Personally, I find neediness to be a really unattractive trait in a man. Emotional neediness is exhausting. Having to constantly reassure another person that you like them or care about them is what I refer to as emotional suckage, meaning that the other person is sucking the life and energy from your being. Doesn’t sound like fun does it? So, if you need constant reassurance/validation from another person, you need not even consider a relationship … except perhaps working on the one (and most important) with yourself.

With that said, let’s look at a few of the reasons why your guy isn’t really your guy:

He’s a Romance Junkie – Love Is Like A Drug spoke to a friend from NYC and he admitted that he was completely addicted to “love”. All that goes on in the first few months of dating, from the coy flirting to anticipatory butterflies, was what he enjoyed. And he flat out stated that once the newness wore off, he got bored. (Read, “The 90-Day Rule,”).

He’s not over the ex – Now, this isn’t necessarily an issue of him still being in love with his ex. Of course when people break up, the next person who comes along is usually “rebound” and that’s just how it is. But, him not being over his ex may have more to do with how that relationship ended.

He’s content with his world – Not every guy, or woman, needs a partner to feel complete and fulfilled in life. Some guys are focused on other things like their careers and although they enjoy companionship (plus other benefits), they’re not looking for a wife.

Hopefully, you’ll see that not one of these reasons equates to anything lacking in you. The bottom line is that it’s not you … or him. You’re simply not the one for him and who cares? There are 7 billion people on the planet so go find someone who works in your world! Oh, and don’t forget to have fun while you’re searching.

How To Realize That Your Summer Romance Was Just A Fling

Perhaps you met him on an extended vacation or spent the summer at your family’s vacation house and he was the new guy in town, either way, you’re still pining for him long after you’ve said your goodbyes. Of course you exchanged phone numbers, email addys and you’ve connected on Facebook. You’ve even talked a few times since you parted ways at that secret, romantic spot on the beach that was just “yours”. But, how do you know if the two of you can turn your fling into a thing?

Let’s start with a clear head. Summertime sets the stage for romance. No one can deny that summer turns up the heat a notch, or two, in every way. Combine the sexy atmosphere of summer with being away from your everyday life and there is the making for an intoxicating situation. Yes this setting can be incredibly exciting and fun, but can that situation translate into your “real” life?

A rather confusing factor of a summer romance is that the relationship is essentially a relationship on super-petrol. Three months at the beach or even ten intense days at a romantic resort, well … you can jam a lot into that time. These specific situations give way to carefree days and nights. The romantic fantasy sets the tone and the sex is so amazing, but the fact is that most of that has less to do with love and far more do with being out of your everyday environment.

After you’ve cleared the summer mist from your brain, can you still say that he’s a priority? “Yes,” you say. Really? He lives several hours away. Have you made any plans to see one another? Not the “we’ll figure it out” deal with empty promises, but an actual plan for how the two of you will continue what began on vacation?

Ask yourself a few very basic questions:

• Are you really willing to commit to a long-distance relationship?
• How much time will you be able to spend together? One weekend a month or holiday break … maybe?
• Outside of that amazing summer setting, how much do you really have in common?

After all is said and done, accept your summer romance for the brief and beautiful thing that it was … a summer fling.

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Seven Signs That It Is Time To Break Up

School’s out, summer has begun, and so too have those annoying thoughts that all is not right with your relationship. But, you’re simply not sure if you should continue dating your boyfriend or girl. It’s an uncomfortable feeling for sure. Of course, you’re not the first person to feel “on the fence” about a relationship.

We all know that relationships aren’t always easy. And ending a relationship is just as upsetting for the person who is initiating the break up as it is for the person who is getting … dumped. No matter how uncomfortable it may be to end your relationship, you can’t feel guilty for wanting to move on and if you’re still unsure, check out the list for the seven signs that it’s time to bail.

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1. You've Sought Advice

This one should be really easy. If you’re reading this article, you’re already half way out the door. When you begin to look for validation to break up, it’s time to go.

2.) You’re Eye Starts to Wander

Okay, so everyone fantasizes sometimes. Even in a deeply committed relationship. But, if you’re constantly thinking about someone else, it is so over.

3.) I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me

It isn't just a Demi Lovato song. If you miss you girlfriend/boyfriend when they’re not around, but can’t wait to get away when you’re together, that’s a good indication that you’re only in the relationship, to be in a relationship.

4.) Everything is Forced

From conversations to tolerating your guy or girl’s friends, everything that the two of you do is more than just a compromise on your part. You don’t seem to enjoy anything that the other person wants to do and you’re trying to remember why you began dating. Guess what? It’s time to break up.

5.) Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Doesn't Trust You

This really should be self-explanatory, but for so many it isn't  Jealousy or distrust is not a sign of affection; it’s a sign to get out. 

6.) Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Makes Rules

From what you wear to what you do when he or she isn't with you. Seriously? Do you want a parent or a partner? Making rules for one another is equally ridiculous.

7.) You or He/She Wants to Take A Break

Everyone needs autonomy, so I’m not talking about you or him/her wanting some time alone. I’m talking about an extended time apart. If you’ve thought that “taking a break” would be a great idea, it’s time to take a break up … you’ll be okay all by yourself.

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Infographic reveals where you can get the most from your wedding budget

The Dating Examiner has helped to plan a few weddings in her day, and with those experiences … she’ll be having a destination wedding. I digress … Weddings can be one of the most expensive milestones in a person’s life. Basically, it’s one of the most expensive parties that you’ll ever throw and wedding costs are continuing to soar.

While June has traditionally been the most popular month for nuptials, more and more couples are opting for less traditional months, but despite a breakaway from the conventional, according to The Wedding Report average wedding costs reached an all-time high in 2012 at $28,427. So, the folks over at My Glass Slipper set out to figure the facts and figures behind weddings and shared their findings by designing an informative infographic.

This infographic divides the information by US averages in geographical regions to see where the big wedding spenders are. The infographic gives priceless information to those planning a wedding and helps brides figure out how and where they can get the most bang for their buck.

Revealed in the infographic is a large variation between the size and range of American weddings. For example, in the Northeastern part of the country brides tend to spend more and have a smaller guest list. While, in the Southern region of the US, brides spend less and have much larger wedding. Also of note, the south hosts an average of 813,328 weddings per year – more than any other region – and can boast one of the largest and least expensive wedding venues anywhere in the country.

Why is the information in this infographic so help for brides-to-be? A wonderful example is that if the bride’s family is from Connecticut and the groom’s family is from Georgia, the couple is more likely to get a lot of bang for their buck by choosing to hold the wedding down South. If you’re in the midst of planning your special day, check out the two-part infographic and hopefully it will help to make your day everything that you want to be.

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Swoon shifts love with a single swipe

Every serious dater knows by now that there are a multitude of dating sites with mobile apps and apps specifically for dating. The culture of dating truly has changed. Dating in today’s world is all about a simple swipe and a picture that really does say a thousand words. Apps like Tinder and Let’s Date have been around for a while, but there’s a new kid on the block … and everyone loves new when it comes to trying to find that special someone … right?

Swoon by Tagged Inc., was released in early April 2013 for Android phones and then launched May 15 for the iPhone. Swoon boasts that using a dual platform gives users a larger pool to um … fish from. The concept and execution is super simple. Download Swoon, connect to your Facebook profile and you’re good to go.

Nothing is posted onto your Facebook page; Swoon simply utilizes the data to create your Swoon profile. From that point, users are presented with information about possible love interests. Each profile presented to the user is complete with a nice sized picture and their relevant information. Swoon allows users to anonymously like or pass on profiles. When there is a mutual like, users can then connect and chat in the app.

Tinder did just release an app on iTunes on May 23, but it has limited usability. Plus the Swoon app has an age restriction. Other notable features:

Anonymously view profiles and like the ones that interest you – skip those that don’t

See people who are a mutual match and find out when you both like each other

In-app Messaging

Profile page with profile pictures you can edit

Sleek photo stack review

The Swoon app is free and can be found at iTunes.

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Is He Cheating? 10 Signs That Say Yes

No one likes to be paranoid about his or her relationship. After all, relationships are supposed to based upon trust. But, a 2012 study printed in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, reveals some sobering statistics about the percentage of men who engage in affairs. Women are often oblivious to the signs of a cheating guy. So, it’s rarely surprising to hear a girlfriend say, “I had no idea!”

While there is no bulletproof formula to know if your man is cheating there are several clues that indicate that he’s gone astray and you need to know them and you need to protect yourself. Check out these 10 warning signs that your man may be cheating.

1. He’s cheated before – “Once a cheater always a cheater,” isn’t a random adage. Neither is, “If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you.” The sayings could go on and on, but you get the gist. Past behaviors are generally a good indicator of what lies ahead, most especially if he cheated on his last girlfriend/wife with you!

2. His friends aren’t as friendly towards you – If you’ve always been close to his group of friends or co-workers, but now their markedly distant towards you, this could be a major sign that he’s doing you dirty and they’re distancing themselves from disaster.

3. He’s all dressed up and nowhere to go – Well, nowhere that you know about. If you’re man has suddenly begun to pay extra attention to his appearance … not just wanting to get back into shape, but more like going from Fruit of the Looms tighty whities to Perry Ellis silk boxers, you have a problem.

4. He’s spending less time with you – And I’m not talking about he’s out with the guys, I’m mean you’re watching the TV show that was “your show’ and he’s in another room reading a book. You don’t need to be physically alone to be left alone.

5. He’s less interested in sex – Barring a physical problem, when you’re man doesn’t want to be affectionate towards you anymore or the sex has completely stopped, this is a good indication that he’s getting it elsewhere.

6. He’s not interested – Now, this is different than a loss of interest in sex. The two of you used to discuss your day, but now he’s not interested about what happened at the office or Fill In The Blank. A loss of interest in the happenings of your life could be a good indicator that he’s interested in the happenings of another woman.

7. He changes his passwords – Personally, I’m not a huge believer that couples need to have each other’s password to emails and such, everyone is entitled to autonomy. But if you’ve always had access to your man’s voicemail, email, etcetera and he suddenly changes his password, he’s most likely hiding something from you and it isn’t a 5-carat diamond ring.

8. He’s become “electronically” secretive – He’s on the computer and every time you walk in the room, he’s quick to exit from whatever site he was viewing. Sans your birthday or anniversary and the possibility that he may be ordering something special for you, this is big red flag that he’s probably doing something online that he shouldn’t be.

9. He’s become “cellularly” secretive – He starts to keep his cell phone in his pocket when he used to toss on the coffee table or he’s suddenly started to lock his phone. He walks away from you when he receives a call or text. If his normal behaviors regarding his cell phone have changed, this is a really good indication that he’s hiding something from you and that something is probably another woman.

10. You find things that don’t belong to you – It doesn’t matter if your man has four sisters, his sisters are unlikely to leave their panties in his car!

If you’re seeing your guy’s behavior in the above warning signs, it may start to become very clear that you’re involved with a cheat. And while it is part of life that people do indeed fall out of love, the bottom line is that when someone cheats on you they are stealing you’re right to make decisions about your life.