Is He Cheating? 10 Signs That Say Yes

No one likes to be paranoid about his or her relationship. After all, relationships are supposed to based upon trust. But, a 2012 study printed in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, reveals some sobering statistics about the percentage of men who engage in affairs. Women are often oblivious to the signs of a cheating guy. So, it’s rarely surprising to hear a girlfriend say, “I had no idea!”

While there is no bulletproof formula to know if your man is cheating there are several clues that indicate that he’s gone astray and you need to know them and you need to protect yourself. Check out these 10 warning signs that your man may be cheating.

1. He’s cheated before – “Once a cheater always a cheater,” isn’t a random adage. Neither is, “If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you.” The sayings could go on and on, but you get the gist. Past behaviors are generally a good indicator of what lies ahead, most especially if he cheated on his last girlfriend/wife with you!

2. His friends aren’t as friendly towards you – If you’ve always been close to his group of friends or co-workers, but now their markedly distant towards you, this could be a major sign that he’s doing you dirty and they’re distancing themselves from disaster.

3. He’s all dressed up and nowhere to go – Well, nowhere that you know about. If you’re man has suddenly begun to pay extra attention to his appearance … not just wanting to get back into shape, but more like going from Fruit of the Looms tighty whities to Perry Ellis silk boxers, you have a problem.

4. He’s spending less time with you – And I’m not talking about he’s out with the guys, I’m mean you’re watching the TV show that was “your show’ and he’s in another room reading a book. You don’t need to be physically alone to be left alone.

5. He’s less interested in sex – Barring a physical problem, when you’re man doesn’t want to be affectionate towards you anymore or the sex has completely stopped, this is a good indication that he’s getting it elsewhere.

6. He’s not interested – Now, this is different than a loss of interest in sex. The two of you used to discuss your day, but now he’s not interested about what happened at the office or Fill In The Blank. A loss of interest in the happenings of your life could be a good indicator that he’s interested in the happenings of another woman.

7. He changes his passwords – Personally, I’m not a huge believer that couples need to have each other’s password to emails and such, everyone is entitled to autonomy. But if you’ve always had access to your man’s voicemail, email, etcetera and he suddenly changes his password, he’s most likely hiding something from you and it isn’t a 5-carat diamond ring.

8. He’s become “electronically” secretive – He’s on the computer and every time you walk in the room, he’s quick to exit from whatever site he was viewing. Sans your birthday or anniversary and the possibility that he may be ordering something special for you, this is big red flag that he’s probably doing something online that he shouldn’t be.

9. He’s become “cellularly” secretive – He starts to keep his cell phone in his pocket when he used to toss on the coffee table or he’s suddenly started to lock his phone. He walks away from you when he receives a call or text. If his normal behaviors regarding his cell phone have changed, this is a really good indication that he’s hiding something from you and that something is probably another woman.

10. You find things that don’t belong to you – It doesn’t matter if your man has four sisters, his sisters are unlikely to leave their panties in his car!

If you’re seeing your guy’s behavior in the above warning signs, it may start to become very clear that you’re involved with a cheat. And while it is part of life that people do indeed fall out of love, the bottom line is that when someone cheats on you they are stealing you’re right to make decisions about your life.