One of things that I love about
blogging, versus writing for a column, is that I can be blunt. I don’t care how
“evolved” a person is and how much people profess to hate “playing games,” the
bottom line is that EVERYONE plays games (consciously or not)! For the sake of
the enlightened person, I’ll do my best to explain the subconscious game
playing.
As much as you try to throw out the list in your head of
whom you’ve decided is the perfect mate for you, you still have a picture of
the ideal mate. And because of that picture, when you first meet a potential
partner, you present your “public” self. What is the public self? It is the
persona that you want the world to see. For example, you probably don’t want
anyone outside of your trusted circle to know that you watch the entire (and
only) season of “My So Called Life” just so that you can salivate over Jared
Leto. This dirty little secret isn’t going to be the first thing that you share
with that gorgeous guy that you’ve just met. For a guy, you’re probably not
going to share that 5-years after graduating college, you still feel that beer
and pizza is the breakfast of champions. No, no ... you are going to present
yourself as a well-rounded and polished individual.
So, yeah um ... okay, what is “The 90-day Rule,” right? It
is the first 3 months, 90 days, 2160 hours, 129600 minutes, 7776000 seconds
that you know a person. I don’t give a crap what anyone says, this period of
time is when each person is on his or her very best behavior. He will not dare
leave the toilet seat up, she will not nag you to meet her parents, he will
make sure that his friends don’t act like apes, she will make sure that her
friends don’t either. Everything about this new romance is bright, shiny, and
fucking perfect. Then comes day 91! You’ve now established your new
relationship and you’re going to begin to see the cracks in the other person’s
personality.
The absolute must for dating – Do not get overly invested in
the other person before 90 days. And that, dear people, is “The 90-day Rule”.
Oh, by the way, “The 90-day Rule” applies to any situation ... a job ... a
friendship ... a marriage. :)
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