Your Jealous Partner Is Your Problem

Jealousy is not, nor will it ever be, a declaration of love. There, I said it. And despite that most people will agree, it is a fact that many will allow jealousy to play a presence in their romantic relationships. You know, each time that I share a little kernel of wisdom there is something or someone that has prompted me to do so. Usually, it’s an instance where a situation has pissed me off -- yeah I get a bit of motivation from anger but that’s for another post.

The back-story that motivated me today was Facebook. All who know me, know how much I love Facebook … Bahahahaha … anyway, you will see the picture above and notice that a woman is innocently wishing a Facebook friend “Happy Birthday.” But, the little hussy isn’t so innocent is she? She dared to post a heart next to the birthday wish!

Whore! Really? Why would she do such a thing? By posting Happy Birthday with a heart it is clear that she really likes her Facebook friend … isn’t it? She must want this man. She must want to steal him from his girlfriend. Whore! Look, her Facebook friend liked it. But, he also commented that he loves his very jealous girlfriend. She must have known he had a girlfriend! Whore! Despite that fact that she has quite a few Facebook friends and that every single Facebook friend (male or female) receives the same exact birthday greeting on Facebook, she just KNEW he had a girlfriend! Right? And this is what has pissed me off today.

I’m not going to get into the social media side of this, too boring. Let’s focus on jealousy. If you are in a healthy, committed relationship where does jealousy come into play? The answer is simple. It doesn’t! Commitment within a relationship means that you respect the other person, which can only occur when people are emotionally healthy. Are you seriously going to sweat another person because they may “steal” your partner?

News Flash -- Your partner cannot be “stolen” from your relationship! Your partner can choose to lie to you. Your partner can choose to cheat on you. Your partner can choose to leave you for someone else. However, your partner cannot choose to be “stolen” from you. There’s a flip side to this.

You can choose to spend every waking hour worrying that your partner may lie to you, cheat on you or even leave you for someone else. Or, you can choose to get emotionally healthy and choose a partner who is emotionally healthy too. However, you cannot choose to place blame on any other person for “stealing” your partner.

Oops. One last thing, if “your” song is “Every Breath You Take” please realize that Sting composed the piece in reference to an obsessive stalker. :) Oh, yeah the song below doesn’t have anything to do with this post … XO Peace!