Tips for a first date: The dos and don'ts

The hottie that you’ve been eyeing has finally asked you out to dinner, or maybe that hottie has accepted a date with you. Either way, first dates can be unnerving for both guys and gals. Now that you’ve crossed the first hurdle of getting the object of your affections to accept a date, what are going to do to ensure that you don’t blow it?

There are a lot of common mistakes that people make on the first date. Below are some tips to help you avoid the most common pitfalls that guarantee you won’t be having a second date.

Don’t get ahead of yourself.

It's okay to get excited before you go out with someone new, but stay realistic. If your expectations are low, then a good date will be a welcome surprise and a bad date will be no big deal.

Do be open to unexpected date ideas.

A local art museum or a common interest activity might be a better way to get to know each other than the typical restaurant and a movie date.

Don’t go somewhere overflowing with people.

Crowded nightclubs or concerts are distracting and no place to talk. You need to be able to focus upon getting to know your date.

Do bring dental supplies with you.

Having something stuck in your teeth is not very appealing neither is bad breathe. Bring mints, gum or breath spray and floss.

Do have a positive attitude.

Sometimes things do not goes as planned. Life is not perfect and neither are you. So definitely cut your date a little slack if things go slightly awry. Laugh it off and find the fun in the situation.

Don’t turn your dates into therapy sessions.

Your date does not want to hear about your ex, your horrible coworkers or boss and definitely not about your financial troubles. Keep the conversation lighthearted.

Do order a big-girl meal.

Do you really think salad will hold you over all night? It’s a fact that most guys like a woman with a normal appetite.

Don’t psychoanalyze your date.

Attempting to analyze his or her psyche is completely inappropriate, even if you have a psych degree.

Do call a friend for a pep talk.

If you're suffering from first-date jitters, call a friend for a few words of encouragement. Of course, got to the restroom or somewhere private to do this.

Don’t get too personal.

Your date’s financial status is none of your business. Asking if your date is interested in marriage, kids; etcetera is a sure way to not get a second date.

Do discuss issues that are important to you.

Yes, it is okay to find out if the two of you see eye to eye.

Don’t let him/her take you to a second location.

That is, if you don't like him or her. It is a waste of your time and your date’s.

Do break the dating “rules”.

If you want to call him or her, call. If it’s a typical guy/girl date, calling him will show that you’re interested in a second date. And guys, waiting too long to call her after the first date will guarantee that you won’t get a second.

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