Online Revenge For Scorned Women

For women who have a cheating partner, there are plenty of avenues to take. Options from counseling to kicking him to the curb, but many women have taken to an online forum, via the website Shesahomewrecker.com, to name and shame their partner’s “other woman”.

The website Shesahomewrecker.com, which launched in 2012, is gaining serious notoriety attracting nearly 270,000 Facebook followers and over 500 named “home wreckers”. As for the “home wrecking” women they aren’t just named, as users post everything from their picture to their home address. Perusing the website was a stomach turning experience for Love Is Like A Drug. You have a harmed and hurting woman posting intimate details of her partner’s “extracurricular activities,” but the focus is placed on the woman that he took up with versus the man himself or healing for the hurting partner.

For example, one post features a woman from North Carolina that includes her first and last name, the town where she lives and three photos of her. The user posts, “I wasn’t going to do this because I am better than this w***e, but when I found out she was actually introducing herself in public places as “the home wrecker,” I figured, why not give her a few more props”. The post continues on with extreme vulgarity, blame on the “home wrecker” for the user’s husband continuing the affair, and sums up with the user’s conclusion that the “home wrecker” secretly wants to be her.

For as many users that the site garners, there are more outraged women who deem the site as an avenue for online bullying with one commenter stating that the postings were, “the equivalent of 13-year-old mean girls bullying a victim,” and posing the question, “If someone located and physically harmed one of the women whose photos you post up here, would you accept responsibility?”. Last summer, a Change.org petition began to circulate and requested for the site to be taken down on the basis of harassment, slander, and cyber bullying.

The petition didn’t gain much momentum with only 60-odd signatures, but a savvy woman named Ariella Alexander decided that a better venue for “scorned women” would be a website that placed the focus on the cheating man. Alexander a Maryland-based woman, whose Twitter bio reads, “My name is Ariella and I am a strong woman who is in love with a serial cheater,” is launching Hesahomewrecker.com, which is set to go live this month.

While Love Is Like A Drug agrees that women who engage in dating men who are involved in “committed” relationships are pitiful, shouldn’t the focus be upon the men who cheat? Or better yet, what the woman who has been cheated on can do for herself? Why would any woman want a man who places no value on their life together? There are 7 billion people inhabiting this planet, surely there’s at least one gentleman in the lot. Of course, you will never find that gentleman if you aren’t happy with yourself.